Destiny and the Human Will

Life is often a conflict between destiny and the human will - and to me it is the human will that prevails. You will be what you will yourself to be. I remember that day so clearly. The sound of the school bell rang and I joined the hoards of girls fleeing their class rooms at St. Mary's Convent at Allahabad , oblivious of the tall young man who was waiting outside - in fact oblivious of my destiny waiting for me that day. He was there with a friend who had stopped by to pick up his sister. I jumped into my car and drove away unaware that by now my future had already been written. That is the only moment in my life which I attribute to destiny. At all other points I have taken the pages of my life and rewritten them, moved it in the course I willed to take it to. Yes ! I was engaged to a wonderful man ; Nasir Husain at 14. He was very handsome and looked just like the heart throb of the time Tony Curtis and I think that had something to do with it all. That and the fact that through the two years that we were engaged he did my Maths homework for me. I was finally married at 16, into a conservative muslim family where women were regarded as treasures of the home . My first child was born before my 17th birthday and life seemed blissful, till I got a sense of myself, of what I was meant to be. I then began to rewrite my destiny and by 28 I had educated myself in the best Beauty Schools in the world, had become successful and famous and a role model to women. Just how I did it ? Watch this space.
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  1. Nina Says:
    Cheers to yo Shahnaz. What a woman ? My God what a woman you are. I am so proud of you.


    2. Thank you very much Naina.
  2. Manpreet Says:
    Unlike you I belive in destiny and I feel your bog came to change my life. I have done my M.B.A and now my inlaws are refusing to let me take up a job , because they feel it is my first duty to have a child. I read your blog and it brought in me a fire that gave me the courage to face them. Last night I told my husband that no matter what, I was going to pursue a carrier and the choices were not his parents but mine. He has promised to handle his parents.Thanks so much to you Shahnaz.


    3. Thank you and wish you luck for your future.
  3. Farida Says:
    I am a Muslim woman in purdah. Idont know how you did this Shahnaz because I feel the world of men will never set us free.


    4. Hi Farida, If you think you are beaten you are If you think you dare not you don’t? If you live to win and you think you can’t It is almost certain that you won’t
  4. Seema Anjum Says:
    Head's off to u m'am......u r such a wonderful lady I hav ever seen in my life.How u manage all these..........th way u live th way u hv to get success is tremendous.I wish i could do like u in my future,u r one nd only laday to follow by leading a muslim culture.


    5. Hi Seema, Thank you for keeping me as your idol .Lots of hurdles have come in my long journey. But, I believe that diligence paves the way to success and must have integrity in every aspect of one’ life- be it work, relationships or responsibilities.
  5. Devika Says:
    Yes. Shahnaz is worthy of the greatest admiration. I agree with all you women Shahnaz did what we all want to. But we all dont have the courage to take chances. We love taking the safest route. So who can we blame but ourselves.
  6. Tamanna Says:
    I have dreams about being like you Shahnaz. I have strength of my resolve. I have studied dress designing and I will one day be the greatest designer ever to come from India on the International market. I will because I have decided to and it is a woman like you that makes me feel I can do it.


    7. Thank you very much and wish you luck. May god bless you.
  7. Gauri Says:
    India iis so free in the big cities but in small towns we are still very traditional. I want to work , but my father is against me taking a job. He says the boys that come to marry me may not like it.


    8. Hi Gauri, Glad to know that you are from a traditional family of a small town. I am happy to know that you want to work. We do have to pay respect to our elders, but u must try and explain to your father that times have changed now and it is very important for girls to be independent as life is so uncertain and insecure for girls. I am sure you will get a compatible match who will not object to u being a working lady. My best wishes are always with you
  8. Amrita Pathak Says:
    I have dark circles below my eye. How can I relief from it?


    9. Dark circles can be because of internal reasons as well as external. Firstly look into your life style. Lack of sleep, long hours on the computer without break, stress and general health problems. Externally you need to care for this area as it extremely sensitive. Have a good routine of applying your regular moisturizer under your eyes in the day. Apply a mixture of’ pure’ almond oil with fresh cream (Malai)and massage the under eye area with it. Wash off with cold water .Put chiilled cucumber slices on your eyes. Once a day rub in grated potato.At night wipe skin clean with a good cleanser, make sure you donot leave any residue of eye make up.Apply White Pearl dual action under eye cream..
  9. Piyush Says:
    Nice words mam!!!


    10. Thank you piyush.
  10. Rashi Says:
    Very much a woman whos life needs to be an example to all of us.I admire your ability to fight your destiny.


    11. Thanks a lot.
  11. Monika Says:
    I have hairfall problem My hair is also very less please give me idea or treatment about this


    12. I wish I could have had more details. Hair fall can be triggered due to hormonal reasons , stress and poor health apart from lack of nourishment and care for your hair. Apply good hair oil preferably an Amla base oil. Use Henna once a week with eggs, full cream Curd, two tablespoons oil and gram flour. This is a heavily nourishing treatment. If you and should help. You could apply the mixture only to the scalp and wash off in an hour. Make sure that you do not use any hair dyes, or hair dryers and heated rollers on your hair. Have a balanced diet with a bowl of Channas in your diet. Also add a good B complex.
  12. ranjit kaur Says:
    salam wale kum i knew bits and pieces about after reading it here and there. but this is nice finally we come web to web . i saw you at a mall in gurgaon and my heart went like there goes a lady i mean you really have sacrificed a lot.


    13. Thank you for spotting me. You should have come and met me; I would have felt very happy. God bless you always.
  13. marian holmes Says:
    Hi Shahnaz, i belive in destiny but those who have gone before us...cannot steady the unrest of those to follow so i belive in destiny and the human will.


    14. Hi Marian, Very rightly said. I too have full faith in destiny. No law on earth can stop whatever destiny has in store for us. Therefore enjoy every moment good or bad coz that’s gift of life is life itself.
  14. Shanti Says:
    Mariam I do agree with you. Destiny and the human will both have a role. We cannot live our lives sucessfully without one.
  15. sushma Says:
    Great.you proved it that with hard work & determination we can make our destiny.thanks a lot, you are a role model for women
  16. Gohar Says:
    I have hair loss problems. What will you suggest to overcome it by using your products.

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